In the United States about 40 to 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. Divorce is a legal, financial and psychological process, and although legal and financial courses of action are vital, it is the psychological element that can largely set the tone and spirit of a divorce. Understanding and accepting the emotional position of yourself and your spouse from the onset can result in a constructive and harmonious conclusion.
Generally, the decision to divorce is not a weightless and rash one, and is often one-sided. Many times the initiator of the divorce has had years to contemplate the separation, mourn the loss of the marriage, plan for an alternate life, and begin to emotionally detach from the relationship. At the same time the other party involved is often shocked by the divorce or resigned to the prospect of separation. In all areas of divorce it is best if both parties are as equal as possible. The reality is that divorces are rarely so neat and amicable. Coping with change – changing social circles, economic security, housing, and parental controls – can be scary and exhausting, triggering feelings of anxiety and depression. It is normal for change to feel uncomfortable, to weather unavoidable losses, and to feel overwhelmed during a divorce. A psychologist can help you find ways to cope with your divorce.
