We live in two worlds: the world outside of us, and the world in our heads. Just as a rock thrown in water produces circular, outwardly bound rippling effects, we generate activity in the outside world and the external world triggers all sorts of reactions within each of us.
There are very few psychological concepts that are used more frequently in organizational settings, and also very few that are used in more confusing and inaccurate ways than the term “motivation.”
Contemplating a reunion is like a time warp. We are reminded of our adolescent vulnerabilities—our fears and the then ever-present self-consciousness. It brings us back to that awkward phase (for many of us) which is recalled more favorably by some than others. Those early emotions are indelible; they stay with us for a long time—perhaps forever.
The basic assertiveness formula has four steps: (1) the situation, (2) the feeling, (3) the explanation, and (4) the request. Another way of stating the formula is (1) here’s what happened, (2) here’s how I feel about it, (3) here’s why I feel that way, so (4) here’s what I want. Occasionally there is a fifth element, the consequence.
Because homework is an inevitable part of school, it is important to attend to this important ritual with confidence and optimism. There are a wide range of approaches to homework which naturally vary with age, temperament and particular needs of each child, but there are some broad-reaching suggestions which can be applied to most any family.
Intimate relationships threaten our core self more than any other. We allow our partners and family members entry into our innermost circles, and we allow ourselves to “need” more emotional support, love and validation from our family members. As a result of this greater closeness, we are more vulnerable and family members are most able to threaten our core self.
Out of decades of often litigious and emotionally devastating divorce settlements, a different approach to dissolving marriages has evolved. The Collaborative Divorce process is regarded as less adversarial, more humane, and allows for greater input, flexibility, and uniqueness in constructing co-parenting plans.